Does talking about your problems with your partner feel like this (hitting your head on a coconut?!) 
Are the problems “all your fault?” 
My new fertility client’s husband had almost convinced her that she caused all their issues because she’s too sensitive, needy and stupid, while he has nothing to learn. 
Her cruelly toxic marriage was the real issue, not fertility. 
Both partners must be teachable in any fulfilling intimate partnership. But some people have such unresolved emotional pain that they can’t bear to look within, preferring to stay in conflict, blame others or break up rather than embracing the very real discomfort of reflection and growth.
If your partner is telling or showing you that they’re not willing to grow, you're being asked to learn this: you’re each at least 50% responsible for the success or failure of your relationship. Only if you both really get this can you succeed. And I know you deserve someone who does. 
Do you? 
I’m Rev Doc Lisa, IntegralHealer, and I’m with you on the Journey.